Updated: Apr 12
After you've been in a tempestuous relationship with a narcissist, it's normal to feel broken, lost, and confused. It can feel like your whole world has been turned upside down. You may be asking yourself, "Who am I? What happened to me?"
It's not going to be easy, but it is possible to find healing and hope after narcissistic abuse. You are not alone. Reach out for support from friends, family, or a therapist who can help you rebuild your life. Give yourself time to grieve the loss of the relationship and make space for new beginnings. Fill your life with activities that make you happy and surround yourself with people who love and support you. Remember, you are worthy of love and happiness. Allow yourself to heal so that you can live your best life.
The first thing you need to know is that you are not alone. Many people have been in a relationship with a narcissist, and you can get through this. It will take time, effort, and support, but you will come out the other side a stronger person.
The second thing you need to understand is that it wasn't your fault. The narcissist may have made you feel that it was, but they are master manipulators. They are experts at making you doubt yourself and question your reality. But the truth is, they were the ones with the problem, not you.
Now is the time for you to start taking care of yourself. Put yourself first for once. Do things that make you happy and nourish your soul. Spend time with people who love and support you. And most importantly, be patient with yourself. You are going through a lot, and it will take time to heal. But I promise you, it is possible to find happiness again after narcissistic abuse.
After experiencing narcissistic abuse, it's essential to empower yourself. Here are seven keys to help you do just that:
1. Acknowledge what happened This is the first and most important step in your healing journey. Denial will only keep you stuck. So, acknowledge the abuse for what it is and start working through the pain. This can be incredibly difficult, but it's a necessary part of the healing process. Once you've acknowledged the abuse, you can start working through the pain. This will involve facing your fears, challenging your negative beliefs, and rebuilding your self-esteem. It won't be easy, but it's so important to untether yourself from the pain and start living your life again. With time, patience, and support, you can do it.
2. Give yourself time and space to heal Don't try to rush through the healing process. It takes time to heal emotional wounds. So, be patient with yourself and give yourself permission to grieve. As you heal, you'll likely find your confidence and self-esteem returning. You'll start to see yourself as strong and capable. This is the beginning of your comeback story. Remember, you're not alone on this journey. Many others have gone through similar experiences and have emerged stronger and more resilient. With time and care, you will too.
3. Set boundaries with your abuser If you have any contact with your abuser, it's important to set firm boundaries. This means setting limits on what you will tolerate from them and sticking to those limits. Doing so will help you to create a healthy distance from your abuser and maintain your own sanity. In addition, setting boundaries will help you to start the process of regaining control of your life. After all, narcissistic abuse can be devastating because it undermines your sense of self-worth and control. So, by setting boundaries, you are taking back control and sending a clear message that you are not going to tolerate their abusive behavior any longer.
4. Work on building self-love and self-care After experiencing abuse, it's common to have low self-esteem. But, it's so important to love and care for yourself. Start by doing things that make you feel good and make YOU a priority. Find things that make you happy, spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself, and most importantly, believe in yourself. You are strong, capable, and deserving of a life full of happiness and love. Self-care is also crucial after narcissistic abuse. Nurture yourself in whatever ways feel good to you. This might involve getting regular massages, taking yourself on vacations - both mental and physical, eating nourishing food, and spending time in nature.
5. Create a support system of loving people. Building a support system of loved ones who understand what you're going through is crucial for your healing journey. If you don't have a supportive network of loved ones, there are also many online support groups for survivors of narcissistic abuse. These groups can provide you with some much-needed relief and allow you to connect with others who understand what you're going through. No matter how you choose to build your support system, make sure that it includes people who really understand what you're going through and who will be there for you during this difficult time.
6. Once you've ended a relationship with a narcissist, it's important to develop healthy coping mechanisms This includes things like journaling, meditation, and self-care. It's important to find an outlet for your emotions, so you don't internalize them and end up in a negative spiral. Meditation can help you to clear your mind and focus on the present moment. It's essential to strengthen your intuition. Your intuition is the inner guide that will help you navigate life after narcissistic abuse. When you strengthen your intuition, you are better able to trust yourself and your decisions. You will also be more in tune with your needs and boundaries. To strengthen your intuition, start by spending time alone in nature. Quiet your mind and allow yourself to connect with your highest self. Listen to your inner voice and trust what it is telling you. Follow your heart, even if it takes you in a different direction than you expected. When you strengthen your intuition, you open yourself up to limitless possibilities. Trust yourself and follow your heart to create a life after narcissistic abuse that is even better than before.
7. Take back your power Narcissistic abuse can strip away your sense of self-worth and leave you feeling powerless. For far too long, you may have allowed the narcissist to control your narrative and dictate how you saw yourself. But that ends now. It's time for you to reclaim your voice and tell your story.
The first step is to begin rebuilding your self-worth. Remember that you are worthy of love and respect, no matter what the narcissist said or did. Life after narcissistic abuse is about taking back your power, claiming your voice, and healing your wounds. It's about creating a life you love on your own terms. It's about finding your strength, courage, and resilience. It's about rebirth and transformation. Claim your power and create the life you deserve.
Finally, don't be afraid to seek professional help if you need it. I highly recommend seeing a therapist or a coach who specialises in narcissistic abuse who can help you work through the pain of your past and present experiences.
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