Updated: Sep 6
It can be difficult to spot a narcissist or a toxic person, but there are some key signs to look out for. If you're worried that you might be in a toxic relationship, or you want to know if you have someone in your life whether it be a friend or family member who are one. Here are seven tell-tale signs to help you identify if you may be dealing with a narcissist.
1. They are always the victim and never take any responsibility for their actions.
When getting to know a narcissist, did you hear about their "crazy ex" or how they were manipulative? And along the way, you come to find out many more exes, and "all of them" was the crazy or jealous ones and manipulative in the relationship?
Narcissists love to play the victim. It gives them a sense of power and control over other people. They always seem to be the ones who are being wronged, and they never take any responsibility for their actions. If you're dating a narcissist, you may have already heard about their "crazy ex" or how they were manipulated. And along the way, you may come to find out many more ex - and all of them were the crazy or jealous ones, or manipulative. The reality is that narcissists are master manipulators. So if you're dating a narcissist, be prepared for a rollercoaster ride. You may never know what's going to happen next - but one thing is for sure: it's always going to be about them.
2. Superficial charm is one of the top criteria for sociopaths and narcissists.
Be aware that such individuals come on too strong at the beginning of a relationship. They seem to have it all together. These individuals are excellent at putting on a false front to manipulate and take advantage of others. They may be extremely charismatic and seemingly charming, but it is all just an act. Underneath their polished exterior, they are often self-centered, selfish, calculating, and lack empathy for others. They make you feel special and like you are the only one who matters to them. But it's all an act. Their goal is to hook you and "love bomb" you so that you will be under their control. Once they have you hooked, eventually they will start to subtly put you down, make you feel bad about yourself with subtle condescending jokes, and control what you do and who you see.
If you notice any red flags, it's important to be cautious around this individual. Don't let their superficial charm deceive you - there's usually something much darker lurking beneath the surface.
3. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance and think they are better than everyone else.
One of the most common traits of a narcissist is their grandiose sense of self-importance. They truly believe that they are better than everyone else and that they deserve special treatment. This can be extremely difficult to deal with when things don't go their way. However, awareness is key. If you can recognize this trait in someone, it can help you to manage your expectations and set boundaries accordingly. Remember, you don't have to put up with their behavior just because they think they're better than everyone else.
4. They are hypersensitive to criticism and are egotistic.
Narcissists tend to only see things from their perspective. They are the type of person who is hypersensitive to any sort of criticism and has an inflated sense of self-importance. They are often difficult to deal with because they expect others to always agree with them and cater to their needs. You may find them debating others online when it comes to disagreeing with their point of view and when they lose will often delete their posts and or comments because their perfect image is important to them.
5. They need constant admiration and affirmation from others and constant need to be the center of attention.
If you're constantly in close contact with or are in a relationship with a narcissist, you'll likely find yourself feeling constantly drained and empty. Like leeches, they seem to suck all the energy and life out of those around them, always needing affirmation and admiration from others. They're never happy unless they're the ones getting all the attention and adoration. It's exhausting trying to keep up with their constant need for validation. If you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, it's important to take care of yourself first and foremost. Make sure you nurture your self-esteem and don't allow yourself to get pulled into their dysfunctional worldview.
6. They exhibit traits of manipulation, coercion, or domination.
A narcissist is someone who demonstrates qualities of manipulation, coercion, or domination in their everyday interactions. These people are often very good at making others feel bad about themselves, and they may use this power to control and manipulate those around them. Narcissists can be found in all walks of life, and they may be particularly prevalent in positions of power or influence.
If you have ever been the victim of such behavior, you know how toxic it can be. As mentioned previously, these people often seem to be very charming at first, which can make them hard to spot. But if you know what to look for, it becomes easier to avoid getting involved with them in the first place.
The most common red flags: they tend to be very controlling, they are always right, they are never wrong, they are extremely critical of others, and they always want things their way. If you see any of these warning signs in someone you're dating, it's best to move on quickly.
7. They have a lack of empathy for others but they have learned how to "act" empathetic but it is not one that they naturally feel.
They have learned to do so to control and manipulate others. If you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, it is important to understand that their empathy is fake. They will never truly care about your feelings or needs, and you will always be secondary to them. It is advisable to distance yourself from these toxic individuals, as they will only bring pain and misery into your life.
Toxic people are a huge drain on your energy and can leave you feeling depleted, anxious, and stressed. If you have someone in your life who is a narcissist or just generally toxic, it’s important to learn how to set boundaries.
It may be difficult at first, but eventually, you will find that by setting boundaries you will not only protect yourself emotionally but also mentally and spiritually. And remember, it’s not about changing the other person – it’s about taking care of yourself.
What tips do you have for dealing with narcissistic or toxic people?
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